Illustratie Heidi Zoestbergen

Feeling unsafe

I often feel unsafe in social situations. I pay close attention to whether I find these people reliable or not. I also test them constantly.

By using my Insight Out, to examine a situation in which I tested people, I found out that as long as I when I keep on looking for safety with others, I will never find safety in myself. On the contrary, if I can find safety in myself, I don’t have to test people beforehand. When I approach people openly, I can always decide whether I want to be with them, or not.
Result: I have become safer and found more trust in myself. It turns out that there are very nice, cool, people and also unpredictable ones! Compared to the past, I am much more relaxed, while it still remains a bit suspenseful.