I wanted to talk to my boyfriend because I felt abandoned by him. But I also knew that he would defend himself immediately<\/p>\n
if I told him that. I put in my Insight Out the messages I want to give, and the disappointing progress I expected.<\/p>\n
This self-investigation with my Insight Out gave me a rather unexpected outcome:\u00a0I realized: If I don’t get support spontaneously, but have to ask for it, I already feel lonely and not seen. I see two selves: One doubting whether I am entitled to my feelings and may show them; \u00a0Another one reacting fiercely and quite spicy so I can indignantly withdraw.<\/p>\n
I suddenly saw that I myself evoke the defense of my friend. Because I already doubt whether I will get what I want, I subconsciously demand attention.<\/p>\n
I realized that I could start listening, combined with quietly explaining what I need from him.
\nHey!.. simple, but hard to see if you throw the boomerang yourself. But … skillfully catching the boomerang myself again, I have gained an important insight. And there is more and more relaxation in my asking for attention. You can guess whether he will listen better to me.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"featured_media":2487,"template":"","class_list":["post-2681","inspiration","type-inspiration","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/myinsightout.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/inspiration\/2681","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/myinsightout.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/inspiration"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/myinsightout.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/inspiration"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/myinsightout.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2487"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/myinsightout.nl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2681"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}